Dealing with change
It's been forever and a day since I came on here... and trust me when I say A LOT has happened.
A new addition to the family, a new look and name at work, new season in the year and plenty more.
In the midst of it all, it's been an eye opener, witnessing first hand how different people react to change.
How do YOU react to change?
A popular model developed in the 1960s by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross gives a detailed explanation and breakdown of the different stages associated with change. It's known as, "The Change Curve," and although it is closely associated with the grieving process, it is also used to better explain and help people understand their reactions to change.
So essentially, the curve shows the different stages people go through when dealing with an upheaval in their lives as shown below:
Stage 1 - Shock & Denial
Stage 2 - Anger & Depression (and finally...)
Stage 3 - Integration and Acceptance.
Ok, that's a mouthful.
Now, while some people dwell longer on one stage, others are like ducks in water and brush off the shock and denial stage, quickly breezing into integration and acceptance. I like to think I'm that person but honestly, it does take the grace of God sometimes...all the time.
I have learnt (and this lesson has served me well over the years too!) that as with every thing in life, you alone reserve the right to how you feel, and how you choose to see things. So would you rather be an Eeyore than a Poo-Bear? Would you rather see the glass as half full or hall empty?
It all boils down to choice.
Then there's also this verse that just about sums it up...
Different variations in language, true but the unique message remains- regardless of the change, I can confidently put ALL of my trust in God in whom there is no chance He will change from being good and merciful to something else.
So with change, while it is human to feel and even go through the phases, one must try not to lose hope and as much as possible hope in God's ever present help.
When I feel choked with conflicting emotions, I like to say,".. this TOO will pass," to clear my head and get my mind back on track with positive affirmations.
Count your blessings. Where you are today is probably somewhere you dreamt of and prayed for. Besides, if you're still here, surely God still has great plans for you?!
Amen!
Have a great day and stay positive!
xoxo
Cee
A new addition to the family, a new look and name at work, new season in the year and plenty more.
In the midst of it all, it's been an eye opener, witnessing first hand how different people react to change.
How do YOU react to change?
A popular model developed in the 1960s by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross gives a detailed explanation and breakdown of the different stages associated with change. It's known as, "The Change Curve," and although it is closely associated with the grieving process, it is also used to better explain and help people understand their reactions to change.
So essentially, the curve shows the different stages people go through when dealing with an upheaval in their lives as shown below:
Stage 1 - Shock & Denial
Stage 2 - Anger & Depression (and finally...)
Stage 3 - Integration and Acceptance.
Ok, that's a mouthful.
Now, while some people dwell longer on one stage, others are like ducks in water and brush off the shock and denial stage, quickly breezing into integration and acceptance. I like to think I'm that person but honestly, it does take the grace of God sometimes...all the time.
I have learnt (and this lesson has served me well over the years too!) that as with every thing in life, you alone reserve the right to how you feel, and how you choose to see things. So would you rather be an Eeyore than a Poo-Bear? Would you rather see the glass as half full or hall empty?
It all boils down to choice.
Then there's also this verse that just about sums it up...
"...But there is nothing of this kind with God; he is never affected by the changes ... With whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning..."
"...With God, there is “no variation or shifting shadow.”
"... Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and comes down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shadow of turning." James 1:17
So with change, while it is human to feel and even go through the phases, one must try not to lose hope and as much as possible hope in God's ever present help.
When I feel choked with conflicting emotions, I like to say,".. this TOO will pass," to clear my head and get my mind back on track with positive affirmations.
Count your blessings. Where you are today is probably somewhere you dreamt of and prayed for. Besides, if you're still here, surely God still has great plans for you?!
Amen!
Have a great day and stay positive!
xoxo
Cee
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